How to help a child who is self-harming

When your child starts self-harming, it is natural as a parent to need to find a way to protect them from their self-inflicted injury. You see the injury, but perhaps do not understand the inner turmoil that is causing this issue, nor have a practical solution to stop this self-harming....

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“How to retain reading – skills”

Reading a book for school or revising notes for revision, regardless of age or ability, the cognitive process remains the same. Read information, Retain information, Recall detail. How do we best absorb information, so that we can retain it for later recall?

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“Parents – Teaching to Learn”

Regardless of age or ability, the learning process remains the same. It is a constant: receive information, retain information and recall information when you need it. Whether you are teaching new behaviour, enhancing understanding or helping with homework. It is only the teaching practice that varies and should depend upon...

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“It’s not fair!”

My son takes everything I say to him as a personal attack, pick up your toys, “it’s not fair you make me do everything”. Bed time “not fair I should be allowed to stay up”. School work “why should I do it?” He also throws tantrums over every incident and...

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“Sorry” is just a worthless word.

To a child the word sorry is very rarely a reflection of their emotional regret. It is rarely spoken with real feeling. It is likely to be a mimic word used to excuse themselves, or an expectant word that gets them off the hook. Younger children (3-7years) rarely have true...

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Finding Diamonds on the Beach

“Work hard to find the diamonds on the beach. The beach is covered with billions and billions of tons of sand. Each grain glitters and gleams in the sun. The tide floods in and dulls the lay. How many, I wonder, did we miss today?” Verse funky bambino

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Daily routines for children with autism

How can I help my child with autism cope through the day at home? Daily routines are important for all children, and especially so for children with autism. Communication has to be precise, routines are a comfort and planning is essential. Autism is NOT anyone’s fault, there is no way...

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Teaching: Praise, blame and reward

Inside every behaviour is a child struggling to behave. Behaviour is ‘cognitive’ and your response should attempt to be too. It is important that with your words, tone, facial expressions and role modelling; that you are sending out the ‘right’ messages so that the child is not confused in their...

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Communicating better: Why ask Why?

The child inside the behaviour doesn’t understand the behaviour any better than you do. So why do we ask… “why did you do that?”… “why can’t you behave?”… “why are you ignoring me?   ”why ask why? They probably don’t know the answer to that question, any better than you...

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